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NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER The stars of the social media show The Ellises and hosts of the Webby Awardwinning podcast Dead Asswith KampD share the core pillars of their relationship as millennial lovers and parents that have allowed them to thrive

Staying married in this day and age takes a whole different mindset and this book gives an intimate and honest look at the inner workings of their strong unionGia Peppers awardwinning journalist and host

After twelve years of marriage twenty years together and four kids Devale and Khadeen Ellis have been through a lot Theyve loved their way through a longdistance relationship financial instability parenthood Khadeens neardeath and their neardivorce chronicling their daytoday life with their boys online After much trial and error they hit upon one surprising essential truth If youre looking for a healthy relationship and a fulfilling life focus on your partners needs instead of your wants Choosing service over selfishness will not only make your relationship stronger but it will help you achieve your own goals and build a legacy together

With their trademark transparency and humor Khadeen and Devale share the messy behindthescenes work of what it takes to succeed and support one another in their search for individual purpose while growing in their marriage They discuss family parenting sex and intimacy finances and commitment with honest advice threaded through their stories such as

Stop comparing yourselves to other couples and make your own rules
Learn how to function as a team
Keep talking about sex
The kids aint first

The Ellises might not have all the answers but they do know that good love takes friendship grace and service Their personal and relatable truths will inspire you to be the kind of partner you want to be so you can build a supportive enduring relationship